Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Fundamental Aloneness

We cannot run away from ourselves. There is no way--you are you.And the aloneness is so fundamental that there is no way to escape it.

The more you try to escape from aloneness, the lonelier you will feel.If you start accepting aloneness, if you start being in love with it, ifyou start enjoying it, then all loneliness will disappear. And then aloneness has beauty, tremendous beauty.

We are made alone. That aloneness is our freedom. And it is not against love. In fact, only a person who is alone and knows how to be alone will be able to love. This is the paradox of love: That only the person who is alone can love, and only the person who loves becomes alone. They come together. So if you are not capable of being alone,you will not be capable of being in love either. Then all your so-called love will be just an escape from yourself. It will not be real love, it willnot be real relating. Who will relate with whom? You have not even related with yourself; how can you relate with the other? You are not there-who is going to relate with others? So a false kind of love exists in the world: You are trying to escape from yourself, the other is trying to escape from herself or himself, and you are both seeking shelter in each other. It is a mutual deception. The first thing is to know one's celibacy,one's fundamental celibacy--to know that our aloneness is our very individuality. Function from that aloneness. Even your love has to function from that base. Then you will be able to love.


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